I miss you Paul / Mike (Dad) Hey Buddy,
I know you are watching over Mom and I. I saw the owl by the front yard this morning and I feel that is you watching over us. Mom and I are struggling right now but knowing you are out there helps very much. I love you very much. I miss you and that perfect smile.
Dad
Another New Year :( / Mom Hey Sweetie,
I miss you so very much!! I have been missing you so very much the last week or so. I can't believe how sad I have been. All I seem to think about is you and Timmy and Sammy. You should all be here, going to college, and having a wonderful life!! Instead, you are all gone and have mad so many of us very sad.
I will love you for ever and ever!!!
Another Xmas / Mom Hey Buddy,
Another Xmas without you and I am very sad this year. I miss you so very much and love you forever. This was a really hard Xmas without you, since Mikey and Alicia spent Xmas eve with Stacia and Sean. It was so hard to get up and have only dad and Fetch here. Dad kept trying to make me smile and talk, but I just don't feel like it. I just want to see you, hug you, and talk to you.
Love & Hugs!!!!
I love you so much / Patsy Vande Ven (Mom) Paul,
It has been so long since I have seen you. I miss you so very much. The holidays are just not the same without you here with us. I get so sad at this time of the year, knowing you will not be here again with us to spend the holidays. I love you so very much and miss you every day. I always think about you. Love forever!!!
Happy Birthday!! / Mom (Mom) Hey Buddy,
Happy Birthday. I hope you are celebrating with Grandpa, Timmy, Sammy, Robin, and Jack. I love you so much and miss you every day!!!
I miss you so much!!! / Mom I am missing you so much tonight Pauly. My birthdays just aren't the same without your beautiful smile to make it special. And without a present form you this year just makes me think more about all the wonderful gifts you gave me over the years. But, the best gift you ever gave me was your unconditional love. We had such a special bond, and could talk about anything. I miss those days when we would just go roller blading or take Fetch for a walk and talk about anything that came to our minds.
I think of you every day, and I know you are always with me.
I will love you forever and a day!!!!
Remembering your spirit today / Caryn Young (Family Friend )
Pauly,
You are such a special young man!! I'm not sure if you really know what kind of an impact your life made on us. You are loved by many Pauly, and your life will NEVER be forgotten. Your family lives on with your memory everyday - and you are held close in their hearts. As we will never understand what happened in your precious mind today (three years ago - already) we do know that your spirit is as strong now as it ever was. We all feel your presence around your home and family - stay with them today Pauly, and help them through their last memory of you today. We love and miss you every day! Keep us strong with your love!
Missing you,
Caryn
I can't believe it has been so long!!! / Mom Pauly,
I think about you so much. I can't believe it is almost 3 years since I have seen you. I miss you so very much. People say it gets better with time, I don't know where they get that idea. I feel it gets worse over time, because it has been so long since we saw that beautiful smile and heard you joking and being silly. There are so many thing that remind me of you. I just want to talk to you and rub your back and fool around like we always have. I remember all the fun we had going to Wal-Mart, going shopping as a family and you and dad throwing toys around. :)
I love and miss you every day!!!!
Turkey season again / Mike (Dad) Well it's spring again. I decided to be a mentor for a young 11 year old girl (Andrea) for turkey hunting this year. I was most rewarding. It reminded me when I took you out for your first turkey hunt. I even told Andrea the story of how you got your first turkey and then shot again after I went to get my Dad. This morning I went out to Oconto Falls. As I started to plant some white spruce I glanced over to the tree's you and mom helped me plant 4 years ago. I smiled as I noticed the growth on those tree's. Much like the growth you had, tall and lanky just like me. As I was planting I heard some turkeys clucking back in the woods. I took a walk along the edge and saw a flock of turkeys just ahead of me. I couldn't help but think you sent them to me. I then found a buck antler. Just like you put it there for me to find.
I know your watching over us Paul. I really miss you buddy. I know you and my Dad will be with Mikey and I when we go out hunting in a couple weeks. I plan on starting up the hot tub at the cabin soon. I know how much you liked hot tubs. I can see you laughing, singing and goofing off in Bob and Al's hot tub. So many thing remind me of you. I love you very much. I am so glad that you were my son.
It's been so long / Patsy Vande Ven (Mom) Hey cutie,
We went to dinner with Sara for her 21st birthday. We all missed you being there, even Judy introduced us to others as Sara's best friends parents. :) As you know, I made Sara an afghan, she really liked it. I knew she would thought because of the sign you sent me when it was finished and I put it in the bag.
I am sorry it has been such a long time since I have written here, but I have been working on my book, trying to get S.A.F.E. going, and working. Plus, trying to keep up with my emails, facebook, and journaling. Seems I am doing a lot of writing in a lot of different areas - journals, my book, and emails.
I love you so very much and miss you every day.
That was just freaky, Paul / Mom Vande Ven Paul,
We went to get dad's new truck, that he decided to scratch and dent already, tonight. I had already changed my clothes and went with your t-shirt and jogging pants on.
All the while I was driving back home on the highway I had the weirdest feeling. First I felt like me, then I could see you, then I felt like I was in your body (in your clothes) I just kept going back and forth between being me - seeing you - and being you. It was a freaky feeling, but not really a bad feeling. Every time I could see you, or felt like you I felt calm. I just wanted to stay in that place with you.
BTW, I started my new job today and so far I am liking it. I think it will be a challenge and I feel I have a very good chance for advancement there. I also started back on Weight Watchers today so I can drop my weight before the Masquerade Ball.
I love you very much Paul. Please help Robin look out for little Jack and get him through this terrible time. If something bad is going to happen, please let me know somehow so I can help Melissa.
Why again? / Mom
Hey Buddy, Well now you and Timmy have Sammy with you. Why did she do it Paul? She had so much to live for, she was so young and had such great plans. I know how devasted she was after Timmy passed away, then again with you. Was it just too much for her? Dad and I are going to go to her service and offer her parents support. Please help me get through this, it is so very hard and has opened up so many fresh wounds. I love you so very much and miss you every day!!!
So unfair to everyone / Richard (passer-by) Such a well-loved son, brother, cousin, and friend! and how harshly circumstances afflicted him in those last several months. His story is one in which everyone was blameless - completely blameless - and yet everything went wrong anyway. I'm so sorry, and I hope you all find peace.
2 years of sorrow / Mommy Vande Ven Pauly,
I can not believe it has been 2 years now. I miss you so very much every day. I try to go on for you, but some days it is just so hard. I love you and miss you so very much. Some days I can be a work with people all around me and still feel so very alone. Please give me the strength to get our non-profit to the next stage. I know I need to apply for grants, and have all the paper work - I just need you to guide me through it. I brought home my wrist band from the Pig Wrestling to put in your box. I know how much you guys liked to go there, so we went yesterday in your honor.
I will always love you and never forget your!!!!
Thinking of you on your up coming Angel Date / Jana Ogilvie (PasserBy)
Keeping your and your family in my thoughts and prayers... Hugs, Jana
I'm sorry Pauly / Jessie French (cousin)
Pauly~ I'm sorry I didn't call you or send you a text or even email you that day. I had been thinking about doing it all day...I hate myself for not doing anything. Everyone says it's not my fault, but it has always felt like it has been. I hate this month-it brings back too many harsh memories. I just want you to come back. I want to go play out in the woods again and play hide-and-seek in grandma and grandpa's basement with all of our cousins like we used to. I absolutely dread family get togethers because I know that you won't be there. I hate having to face that fact every time I have to see the family. It's just not the same Pauly. I just want you to know Pauly, that I've always loved you and I always will. Say hi to Grandpa for me and tell him that I love him and miss him, ok? Love you forever, Jessie Close
I miss you so much / Mommy
Paulie,
My sweet little boy. Dad and I were sitting in the hot tub today and I started thinking how nice it would be in the fall when you and I could sit in there while dad was in Kansas. Then, it hit me like a ton of bricks, you were never going to be able to enjoy the hot tub with us. Then that song came on the radio on the way home and I just couldn't stop the tears I almost had another panic attack. I have been thinking about you all night and missing you so much. I remember how you used to call me "Mommy" even when you were 18. You used to do it in fun, but now I wish I could hear it again. I just miss you so much!!! Connie sent some really cute pictures over today that are really nice I will probably print some.
Love you always!!! Close
Miss you so very much!!! / Patsy Vande Ven (Mom/best friend )
Paulie, I miss you so very much today. I sat out on the front step this morning for awhile trying to picture that last time we went for a walk through our woods, followed the creek, then walked on your tree. I feel terrible because I could not picture your smiling face or your laughter while I was sitting there. I am so afraid I am forgetting you. I don't want that to ever happen. I love you so very much, and miss you every day. I am working late today and am glad there is no one in here right now as I can not stop crying. I hope you approve of my non-profit I started. It just seemed like something I had to do to try to help others. I have the 501(c(3) all set up, now I need to sell my Curves so I can free up my time to concentrate on our organization, plus take some of the stress off of me. I did not realize how much stress there would be with the Curves, but there always seems to be something. Like right now I have a staff person that can only work 8 hours per week, so that puts more pressure on me to be here more often. And all I want to do is concentrate on the non-profit. I know I can do some of it here, but I want to be able to really sit down and work on it all day, without interruptions - which are inevitable here with members coming in to work out. I love you so very much and miss you with every breath that I take. Close
Hi Paul / Doris Heasman (pos)
Hi Paul wow what a nice young man you are and i just love the name of your dog , very original and different . My Monique would have loved the name too . Take care hun and send your mom lots of love from up there
Love and Repect Doris (mom of Monique) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Close
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